Daruma Doll

A while back a friend of mine gave me a Daruma doll he picked up on his most recent trip to Japan. When I received it, the eyes were blank.

Following what my friend told me, I set a wish/goal that I wanted to achieve as I filled in one of the eyes. The doll sits on my desk as a reminder to me, and he earns the other eye when I’ve met my goal/ when my wish has been fulfilled.

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(You can read more about Daruma Doll eyes at wikipedia)

Now, this is very much a borrowed cultural item, and I am applying my use of it based on my (quite limited) understanding of the doll, and the tradition that drives it. I do so with respect to the culture from which I’ve taken it, trying to honor the spirit behind it, as I understand it.

As for the wish? Well, here is hoping it’s not like a birthday wish that is nullified when shared. My Daruma doll will get it’s left eye when I have sold and published 2 works of fiction.

I have one short story on the verge of going out, a second in the works, and ideas for a third. In the meantime, my one-eyed observer sits on the desk above me, reminding me of the goals I am striving to achieve.

Points System

I have been struggling lately to use my time to do the things that I aspire to do with my time.  Instead I squander my time on the enjoyable activities (e.g. binge watching Veronica Mars) because, dang it, I deserve to pamper myself.

But if you do it all the time, it’s no longer pampering. It’s avoidance, and the excuse to not get things done. So instead at the end of the day I feel lazy and guilty, rather than pampered. I’ve the sneaky feeling the depression I’ve recently begun treatment for is encouraging me in the desire to not do much, but also then jumping in with the guilt when I listen to it.

So, in an effort to get things done, I sat down with my sister, and came up with a list of small goals, and awarded each goal a point level. Some items are worth 1 point, and are daily – like brushing my teeth in the morning, and putting the dirty clothes in the hamper before bed. Some are worth more points, and are done less frequently, such as 5 points for cooking dinner (with the goal of 3 times a week), or the weekly “Seek out quiet time” for 15 points.

The final kind of points are the stacking ones. One example is “30 minutes writing related activity – daily” – the first time in a week (Monday – Sunday) that I do this, I get 3 points.  The second time I get 6 points, and the third, 9, and so on.

RewardsTable

The other side of that is the rewards. Once I earn a certain number of points, I get to trade them in for rewards. I have started a list of what the rewards look like, from the “$1 store item” level when I need a quick boost, to a trip to the spa. My sister has even offered to have “mystery” prizes, where she tells me the point value, and if I want, I can spend my points on what she feels is an appropriate level reward – great for the times when I feel the system is getting dull / when I convince myself I’m no longer in the rewards I’d set because, let’s face it, lazy is easier.

So that is my current plan to do the things that I think will, ultimately, make me a happier person, and figure out how to make the time for the things that I feel are important, rather than seeking the easy way out.

Starting my third week as of this past Monday, and I am already going to spend the first 100 points I earned to get some temporary tattoos I found on eBay.

http://tinyurl.com/dragonflytemtats

Obligatory “first” post

Welcome to my website. It has lain fallow for about two years now. Prior to 2012 I was managing this site via HTML, and decided to switch to WordPress. After the switchover, I neglected to bring any of the previous information or pages over to the new format. And honestly, the site had been pretty inactive prior to that.

As social media sites have picked up, I have paid less attention to my webpage and various blogs. In addition, I was putting a lot of time into the small business I started in 2012, and closed (on good terms) in March 2014.

My goal for the site is still nebulous, but right now my thought is to use the CrushedMuffin site as my main blog. I will be reviewing the previous iteration of the site and see if there is any content I want to pull forward into the WordPress format.

As for me, I am Christy. I am defined in many ways that change, and have changed over time. Currently, I am Manager of UF Institutional Repository and Theses and Dissertations Program, a writer, an avid reader, a vegan baker (but not a vegan), a happy wife, a world traveler, and a proud servant and lap of my two cats, Emma and Sarah, among other things.

Welcome.